The dominance of this myth in certain societal contexts, however, creates particular problems for gay men who wish to participate or excel in domains (e.g. The notion that gay men have some type of universal sexual desire for all men is simply absurd. Like any other group of people, men who are homosexual are attracted to only certain types of men who spark their interest or sexual desire. "Gay men are attracted to all men and can't control their desires." While personality-based stereotypes about gay men don't on the surface seem particularly toxic, they are damaging to the extent that they play a role in homogenizing gay men and concealing their uniqueness as individual human beings.ģ. Yes, there are some gay men who display an interest in fashion, who take care of their appearance, who have meticulously clean apartments, and who are huge fans of Madonna, Cher, and Lady Gaga! There are many other gay men, however, who don't display these behaviors or interests and many straight men who do display them. Some of these stereotypes are so strong that it's as though some people think there really is such a thing as a "gay man's personality." In reality, personality differences amongst gay men are as diverse as those across any other group. Related to myths about the apparent femininity of gay men are other stereotypes about the personalities of gay men. "Gay men are into fashion, have tidy apartments, and love Madonna!" In this regard, the most visible gay men are often those who superficially meet the stereotype of femininity, not those who challenge it.Ģ.
Part of the reason this myth about the "femininity" of gay men survives is because many of the most masculine gay men are not necessarily open about their sexual orientation and/or it is not "assumed" by others that such men are gay. Gay men, as a group, display tremendous diversity in their expressions and displays of masculinity and femininity.
What is problematic is the assumption that all gay men display the same type of gender behavior. Men behaving in an effeminate manner is not inherently problematic or deserving of public shaming. While there are of course some gay men who express themselves (via speech, dress and behavior) in ways which are traditionally "feminine," there are many others who do not. The idea that male homosexuality is directly linked with femininity is erroneous. Here are 10 of the most problematic myths and stereotypes which play a role in the mischaracterization and dehumanization of gay men in the U.S. continues to evolve, and as gay men become increasingly more open about our true identities, we must take advantage of all opportunities to educate others about what is correct, and what isn't, in relation to male homosexuality. Myths and stereotypes that go unchallenged become stronger weapons for those who seek to oppress others in society. As a gay man I have a particular interest in challenging myths and stereotypes relating to gay men in America (and around the world).